Wax can burn very badly.
If you want to care for you partner in a way conducive to your being able to play again, you need to be careful. Second, communication is key in any scene, I can not stress that enough so talk with each other as much as possible!
There are many different types of candles available. The degree of heat of the dripping wax varies depending on the materials from which the candle is constructed. Beeswax is the hottest, and something that a beginner should avoid. Its recommend that a person not use it at all, it burns like hell, but some experienced players do use this type of candle. It can cause second or third degree burns as there is often honey left in the beeswax which gives the candles their distinctive pleasant smell, but also holds the heat. There are 3 main kinds of wax:
Soy, paraffin and bees wax.
Soy wax burns at the lowest temp but is a tad sticky on the skin. Soy wax is really difficult to make pillar candles with as it’s so soft.•
Plain 100% paraffin wax is the best kind of wax to use for wax play. Paraffin wax burns at the mid to high range and is really simple to remove. Comes off cleanly in large chunks. Paraffin wax will cause reddening of the skin, this is normal. These can be found most likely at your local supermarket.
Read the labels!
Bees wax burns like hell. Never use bees wax for wax play. Unless you are vary familiar with wax play, reason for it, is because honey can be in the wax and once dripped on the skin it can cause burns, even leave scars. So use caution if you do use bee wax. Become used to playing with wax before you move to this step.•
Not only do metallic candles contain toxic metallic salts. Metallic colors are loaded with chemical dyes which will increase the burn factor and leaves permanent scars.
Safety and Tips:
Wax can splatter into the eyes. Avoid starting a fire. Wax can cause serious burns. Crock pots and wax therapy spas almost always have heat controls not temperature controls; temperature will vary over time. If you’re burning one candle at a time, you should be fine. You should have a fire extinguisher or wet hand towels on hand. Burn cream should always be handy BEFORE you start a wax scene.
Whenever you are using a lit candle make sure that you do not have on acrylic or polyester clothing, if wax gets on these fabrics it can cause the fabric to melt to your skin. Also make sure that you do not have long sleeves that may catch fire or be dipped in the vat by accident. The first time you experiment with wax please make sure to take your time and test the wax on yourself prior to using on another individual.
Body Hair and Piercings:
The wax just sits on top of the hair. So long as hair protects the wax from getting onto the skin it defeats the purpose of the scene. Getting wax out of hair is so not a scene. Its recommended to have your partner shave. Try not to get wax on areas that are pierced. Imagine trying to pull the stud out with it covered in wax.
Mess and Removal:
Wax is VERY messy. Wax just sticks and leaves horrid little residue marks. So always put something down first (i.e., shower curtain, old sheet), that you can bundle up your mess and throw all of it away once the scene is over. Wax may be difficult to remove, particularly from areas with hair. A flea comb or a sharp knife, butter knife, vampire glove, etc. may be necessary for wax removal; use of a knife for this purpose requires special skills, though an expired credit card can work as well also. Applying mineral oil or lotion before play can make wax removal easier.
Drip and Pool Wax:
Beware of splatter. Keep the flame well away from the skin. Drip from roughly 18 inches and the amount of drips you allow to hit the skin, depends on how your partner is fairing with the whole experience. Build up an area, but not all at once (puddles stay hot underneath and can burn the skin, pay attention to your partner).
Once you drip wax, the skin is hot and delicate. If you drip wax on that same spot before allowing it to cool, it’s going to hurt a lot more. If you allow it to cool by holding your hand gently over it, you’ll not only connect with your partner, but make it more sensual and less painful. Move around to different areas and when you think a previous area is ready, go back and connect the dots.
Wax Play should be relaxing and at times slightly challenging for your partner. If you are new to dripping wax, start off with white candles (white paraffin house candles are good and also cheap). If you drip a little bit of wax on your partner at different heights you’ll soon work out what is and is NOT comfortable for them, otherwise stick to the 18 inch rule. Rotate the candle so it burns evenly and cleanly (to avoid soot build up). If you don’t, the wax will pool on the actual candle and drip in mass along with its soot build up and you’ll end up with dirty looking wax. Once you have finished dripping your wax (you can use 2 candles) unless your going for some sensational idea. The end result should be a hard shell, that you can crack open, and slice off. Moving onto colors is fun, and you’ll probably find that your partner will feel some colors hotter than others. Ask them so you know as well how they are handling it.
Melting crayons in your wax candle is a great way to add color without raising the heat temperature
Sensation and Oil:
Temperature play lends itself well in combination with sensation play. You can add anything from hoods, ice, gently dragging tools over the body. Cutting sections of the wax out and adding new warm wax.
Add a hood.
You may read elsewhere to never use any form of oil on your partner prior to wax play, let alone during it. You could try do a session using Crisco first. Unless you redo that particular session again without the Crisco, you will never know. However, many people use baby or massage oil as a massage during wax play. Some like using it, as it aids the removal of the wax.
Another means of application is pouring the wax on by using a ladle or cup, even directly from the jar itself, in these cases please remember to test out the temperature and allow for the proper height in order to avoid unnecessary burns. Another method is by using gauze or material, simply dip the gauze or fabric in the wax and gently lay it directly on the skin, when the wax cools you can add another layer of gauze or fabric or you can simply pour more wax directly onto the material. An inexpensive alternative to medical gauze is shop towels, they are purchased by the role like paper towels but they are much thicker and inexpensive. Simply cut the shop towels to the appropriate width and dip them in the vat, make sure to squeeze out the excess wax before applying the towel to the skin. Another method of application is the use of a turkey baster, again remember to test on your own skin before you squirt this on someone else.