Humiliation & Degradation, like all BDSM play, should only be practiced between consenting partners within pre-established guidelines.
She/Her is used primarily, but this guide, as with all of LAD, is open to all sexualities, genders, and gender identities.
Sit and be silent.
You will answer direct questions.
The last word out of your mouth will always be "Sir".
We're going to have a conversation about all the awful things I'm going to say and do to you.
I will give you orders.
I will be cruel.
I will hurt you.
"Stop", "no", "don't" will have no meaning here.
Your tears will have no meaning here.
Until and unless you say your words, you are mine to use as I see fit.
Erotic humiliation and degradation is the act of using language and actions to humiliate and degrade another person. This is generally a psychological thrill, but sexual stimulation is often a part of erotic humiliation.
Humiliation is a distinct entity from Dominance, but they seem closely related at first. Both instances could have a submissive tied up and then stimulated to the point of orgasm. The difference is, Dominance is a physical activity, to have control over another person, making them do what you want, how you want, when you want. Humiliation is about creating an specific emotional response. Making them beg for an orgasm would be the humiliation part. The fact you are causing them to have an orgasm is just an means to an end. So that is where the distinction lies between the two.
You can also desire to both be Dominated and humiliated, and this is quite common.
Recognize the fact that words and actions can have a deep effect on people. Some people do not like certain words, or phrases, or certain descriptions, these are considered triggers, and should be included in the pre-scene negotiation. Someone may desire to be called a "slut", "bitch", or "whore", but will end the scene if you make a comment about their weight.
You can humiliate a person two ways: Physically or verbally.
Physical includes lack of body rights, using their body however you desire. Spitting, ejaculating, or urinating on them. Demanding that they perform fellatio, analingus, or cunnilingus. They may are not allowed to sit use the furniture, they have to have supper ready at specific times, they must please their Top every night, etc.
Sexual denial might take place, or the sub might never be allowed to cum first, or they might not be allowed to cum without permission.
Objectification: The sub can be used as a foot rest, as a piece of furniture, or often referred to as an object, such as a cum hole rather than a person. Animal roleplay may require the sub to take on the role of a dog, including eating and drinking from bowls on the floor and even being crated for periods of time.
Verbal includes general insults, saying they are "stupid", "fat", "lazy", "incompetent", etc.
Belittlement: Calling them names such as "slave", "boy", "sissy", "pet", "property", etc.
Body focus: Telling them they have small boobs, a small penis, ugly feet, or a crooked nose.
Forced flattery: Forcing them to worship you and call you Master, Mistress, etc.
Restrictions: Being made to ask to use the bathroom, to cum, what their are allowed to wear, etc.
Slurs: Any racial or ethnic slur can be used. People tend to think of this as edgeplay and some people disagree with it completely.
One of the reasons people like erotic humiliation is because you do not physically need to be in the same room. Oftentimes this can heighten the feelings of sexual arousal, but being able to erotically humiliate a person online is a large appeal to certain people. You can force a person to text you to ask things. You can force a person to do things and never be there. And oftentimes both people will get off on that.
Scolding her like she's a little girl.
Have her wear pigtails and carry a doll in public.
Go to a show and pay for one adult and one child.
Public (discrete) masturbation
Order her go into a photo booth and have topless photos taken with her face clearly visible. She then leaves the photos in the booth.
Order her to wear a see through top in public (no bra).
Don't allow her to wear underwear
Take her to a fetish party and ball gag her so she can't speak at all.
Make her walk around a mall holding her favorite vibrator.
Inspect her genitals to ensure grooming.
Make her call you Master in public.
Make her wear a very sheer top with a black bra. Take her to an upscale bar. Then make her go remove the bra in the bathroom and then hand it to you.
Make her eat from a bowl off the floor using only her mouth.
Don't allow her to use utensils to eat.
Only allow her to sit/sleep on the floor.
Only allow her to wear a collar around the house.
Have her take naps on a pet mattress.
Require her to wear a leash.
Dress her in animal ears and a butt-plug tail