"I can actually get off without touching myself while high, just with fantasies and muscle flexing."
Female masturbation and the desire for women to masturbate is finally beginning to come out the closet, so to speak.
Until As far back as 200 AD, the desire for many women to engage in some kind of sexual activity, either alone or with a partner was noted by Roman physician Aelius Galenus "widows, and particularly those who previously menstruated regularly, had been pregnant and were eager to have intercourse, but were now deprived of all this". However by 1637, Physician Abraham Zacuto concluded that '[b]ecause of retention of the sexual fluid, the heart and surrounding areas are enveloped in a morbid and moist exudation: this is especially true of the more lascivious females, inclined to venery, passionate women who are most eager to experience physical pleasure; if she is of this type she cannot ever be relived by any aid except that of her parents who are advised to find her a husband. Having done so the man’s strong and vigorous intercourse alleviated the frenzy.’ Which is a round about way of saying "Some women really like to orgasm and will whenever they can".
And this has been true for at least 30,000 years, if you accept that this isn't a whetstone, but more of a... wet stone.
In 300 centuries we managed to go from hunter/gatherer communal relationships in which sometimes it was easier to take matters into one's own hands to "marry her off" and "only bad girls do that" to a new way of thinking in which sex isn't necessarily a partnered function, but something we can do by ourselves.
I had an opportunity to talk with Dianne Harrington and Taylor Bartolotta about their personal experiences with masturbation in quite a few forms.
Lifestyles After Dark
How often to you masturbate?
On average... like every two-three days. Other time, multiple times a day. Depends on life and stress.
Depends on the day honestly...
Today I've done it five times, but as for yesterday, not at all.
Mrs. Harrington, hands on or toys and penetration or clitoral stimulation?
Both. But generally more toys than hands.
Dual. Normally both, and sometimes anal stimulation.
Or very randomly, sometimes just thoughts and muscle flexing. I enjoy high masturbation/sex. I can actually get off without touching myself while high, just with fantasies and muscle flexing.
Do you use a plug, dildo, or fingers?
All, but mainly plugs.
Do you keep all the action "downstairs"?
No, I have a major oral fixation.
Do you use a toy or is there partner interaction for that?
Toys/fingers. Sometimes partner interaction but not generally.
Mrs. Bartolotta, hands on or toys and penetration or clitoral stimulation?
Depends on mood more often then not I go for straight clit simulation with just my fingers.
Mrs. Harrington, is it solely stimulation or do you fantasize and what is your favorite fantasy?
Fantasizing. My best "O"s come from murder/rape fantasies. Quickest, of my husband with another woman fantasy
What is it about murder/rape that drives you?
I guess the control of another person.
Have you ever masturbated while watching your husband with another woman?
Yes. And that has only recently become a memory within the past two years
Mrs. Bartolotta, is it solely stimulation or do you fantasize and what is your favorite fantasy?
Sometimes I fantasize about situations that would never happen in my real life. I have an unhealthy obsession with rape play [Laughs].
I like the feeling of being submissive and not in control.
What types of toys do you use?
I generally use real feel dildos or silicone vibrators.
Solely vaginal and clitoral?
Mostly...sometimes the booty gets a little action
Fingers or toys?
Toys for sure! Never fingers [Laughs]!
Do you use a plug, dildo, or just stimulate that area?
Dildo and plugs. Sometimes I wear a plug all day to prepare for when the hubby gets home.
Yes and no.
For anal, I'm still pretty new, so smaller is better, but as far as vaginal, anything goes [Laughs].
Have you ever masturbated in a public/semi-public place?
Once or twice. But not normally
Absolutely [Laughs]. I've done it in my car waiting for my dentist appointment, I've done it in the Walmart parking lot, I've even done it waiting at my hubby's work for him to get out.
Full exposure or through clothes?
Full exposure: No holds barred.
Exhibitionism or easier access?
Easier access. But I do enjoy the thrill of possibly getting caught.
Have you ever been caught?
Never thankfully [Laughs]!
Have you ever "put on a show" for anyone?
Absolutely! I love showing off. I have even though of becoming a cam girl
How large an audience?
I went to a party a couple years ago for fellow kinksters to meet and greet. I believe there were over a hundred people there and we were all playing and showing off.
It was so freeing and exhilarating!
If you had to choose masturbation or sex?
Sex. My husband enjoys watching so if I masturbate I generally get sex [Laughs].
And sometimes, I have no control as I masturbate in my sleep, as well.
I have to say a nice mix of both. I love playing with myself while getting plowed. Its fun for me and its fun for my hubby!
Do you think masturbation should be taught in sex ed?
Absolutely! It teaches kids that its not wrong to explore yourself. It will better prepare them for that "first time" so they know what feels right and what feels wrong.
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